Have you ever been confused or perplexed? Do you ever question what your initial plans were and think about what needs to be done? I am so there right now.
Here's my predicament:
Dan and I are approaching our 10th wedding anniversary. When we got married we had planned to go to the Outer Banks of North Carolina for our honeymoon. About 4 months before our wedding Dan got a better paying job working at a manufacturing plant. Due to being a new hire he did not have accumulated vacation time and so we changed our plans. Instead of a week long trip to NC we went to a Geneva Illinois for a longer weekend. We had a nice time and enjoyed ourselves. We decided we would go to the Outer Banks for our first anniversary. Fast forward to October of 1999. I'm feeling strange, not normal, and so we decide to take a pregnancy test...it's positive! So we're due 4 days before our anniversary! Janea was actually born 18 days before our first anniversary but there was no way we could travel and leave a newborn! So we decided to wait until our 5th or 10th anniversary. At 5 years, we couldn't afford to go and we had two kids 4 and under. Now we are approaching 10 years and I don't know if the kids could handle us being gone for a week.
We are looking at places to stay, attractions we want to see, and starting the beginning of the planning process for the trip. Janea is wanting to go...since we will be going to the beach. At the same time we have never taken a family vacation to anywhere. So my question is should we just take a family vacation this June and then in a few years when they are much older plan an extended second honeymoon trip or should we just try and take one this year. Parenting is such a challenge. Dan is worried if we take the kids that I will feel jipped out of getting to see all the stuff I want to see. I am worried about how the kids will take us going for at least a week once you count in travel times.
Marriage is important and getting that time to reconnect with your spouse is so important. Parenting is important and so is building family memories.
3 comments:
A break from the kids will be good for both you two and the kids.
brian
Erin, that is a lot to think about....but just remember your commitment aside from your relationship with the Lord is first and foremost to your husband! You will be a better Mommy if you set aside some special, undivided time with Dan! Don't feel like you are jipping the kids out of family memories. You guys can plan some fun events that are even close to home together this summer! Building and strengthening your marriage will be best for ALL of you down the road!
You owe this special time with Dan to yourselves! You waited and planned and anticipated this for 10 years, you deserve a special vaca with your man!
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